Programs

Join us for a creative and interactive dialogue for survivors of sexual abuse to see how we can navigate safe, empowering sexual lives. Sexy Survivor also welcomes partners and allies of survivors to gain tools in supporting sexy survivors. All too often, sex is altered, damaged, or made complicated for survivors of sexual abuse. It takes time, patience, and trial and error to figure out what works for us. This workshop is not a therapy session, but a skill and strategy share.  We hope to encourage success building and future dreaming as we share stories and ideas of what has worked for sexy survivors.

This program will dissect the concept of sexual liberation, freedom, and privilege— specifically how it interacts with race, class, and gender. What does sexual liberation look like when we often witness a predominantly white, heterosexual, male-dominated, anti-trans culture? How do queers, poor people, transfolks, people of color, and women get access to the privilege of desire and exploration? How does oppression show up in our bedrooms and between our legs? Join us as we walk through and dissect the obstructed path to sexual liberation.

Join us for a workshop on how to navigate the complex language of consent, safety, and getting what you desire. Negotiating consent is a phrase often left out of our conversations about sex. When we think of love, romance, relationships, sex, and fucking, other thoughts and frameworks come to mind. Fireworks, cruising, a dozen roses, and unspoken chemistry are the cornerstones of navigating sex and intimacy. But in the real world, we know that getting what we desire and working to make a just and vibrant exchange within sexual dynamics doesn't just happen. We have to talk, discuss, negotiate, and be held accountable for all of our desires – those spoken and unspoken. This of course is easier said than done in a world where love has many languages; where race, gender and class oppression abound and where many of us are recovering from trauma. 

Join us for an interactive workshop to breathe, move, stomp, and act out. We will collectively hold space to express in a variety of ways how trauma has/is existing in our bodies. We’ll explore how to move, mold, walk with, and release. This workshop uses theater techniques, visualization, and movement to tell our stories and create collective healing from childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault, and trauma.

Join us in examining sex education as a life skill and tool for disrupting and ending child sexual abuse. ​At what age should parents discuss this uncomfortable but imperative topic? How do we re-construct the social narrative on love, sex, and relationships to our children without fear or shame​? How do we engage with our children in their personal and social understanding of 'acceptable' sex?

If children and youth are our future, how can we craft that better, safe world for them, when we don't center or include them? CSA prevention activism has lived in a silo. As it stands, major social justice movements miss the opportunity to connect with CSA prevention as a movement. CSA is marginalized as a children's issue and therefore not visibly associated with existing movements.

Join us as we discuss harm reduction approaches and share self-care skills that we can incorporate in our communities, families, and everyday life to balance ourselves on a daily basis. When thinking of self-care, we often picture ourselves doing it alone. We aim to understand ourselves enough to know what is “right” and what is “wrong” for our well-being. The truth is, sometimes we just can’t. Finding the tools, holding ourselves accountable, and thinking outside the box can be challenging. Asking for support from our community is sometimes the most loving act of self-care.

This workshop will re-visualize this existence, where we share stories and brainstorm what the future of the Gender Queer looks like, to us. Similar to the way bisexuals have endured societal pressure to conform or choose, so have the Gender Queers. The Gender Queer, Fluid, Non-Binary, Gender Non-Conforming, Gender Variant existence continues to be a struggle (internally, inter-personally and Institutionally) in the world. Our existence has been muffled by the socially constructed rules of the gender binary within and outside of cisgenderism, deemed a pit-stop of confusion and uncertainty, ignored as valid by the medical industry and labeled weird, among other things.

Working through sexual trauma is deep continues work. A powerful tool for healing is manifestation; and when combined with ritual, crystals, or other elements of nature, manifestation can amplify positivity. Working with the natural beauty around us, not only grounds us, but aids in raising our vibration allowing healing to occur.

Join us as we intentionally name and lay the groundwork for sustaining what we want from our relationships and how we have built. Are you referred to as having an 'alternative relationship'? Are you polyamorous, a relationship anarchist, in a Leather family, in a non-sexual life partnership, have an unconventional Dominant/submissive dynamic, have a kink or found/chosen family as your primary source of relationship? LGBTQIA2S people have been crafty in the way of demolishing what hasn’t worked for us and reconstructing creative, new, dynamic ways of loving, fucking, finding community, survival, pro-creation, and spiritual intimacy. We are tearing down condemned homes, discovering new foundation, crafting new structures and rebuilding on our terms. We are the builders! How do we maintain our structures--within or out-side state affirmation? How do we make sure we are creating the foundations we need for the house we want to live in?

Have you been called unfit, immoral, a bad parent, non-traditional, abusive, or oppressive for being a kinky or polyamorous caregiver? Parenting ain’t easy for anyone, but mix it with “alternative” methods of living, loving, desiring, and child rearing, and the challenges pile up. Fear no more! Get the facts, share your story, and get intentional about your family, yourself, sex, love, and play.

Welcome to the many sides of kink. It isn’t just a secret activity you do in dungeons but a multifaceted tool (even a lifestyle) for those who want it. How does kink fit into human sexuality? How can one understand, use, and manage this tool anywhere on the sexuality spectrum? What is safe and how do you get what you want? Join us on this kink-positive journey to answer these questions and many others.  

A compilation of poetry, readings, skits and storytelling spanning two decades of memories and transformations.